The freedom needed to be YOU
Remember the amazing 70’s album, Free to be You and Me? Growing up my mother played it daily and we sang at the top of our lungs, belting out the wild, groovy politically-correct lyrics over bowls of brown rice, avocado and black beans. (Yes, the California hippie runs deep in me.) I recently found a copy, shoved it in my car stereo and listened, tears streaming down my face, as this line rang out. “There’s a land that I see where the children are free. In this land every girl grows to be her own woman. Come with me and we will live in a land where you and me are free to be you and me.”
I cried out of nostalgia, remembering those afternoons with my mother when it was just the two of us singing in the kitchen. I cried out of humbled awe at the freedom I’ve created in my own life. And then I cried for myself and every other woman, thinking how hard it has been to grow to be our own women in our own bodies.
How hard it still is, in fact. Hard not because we don’t have the strength. But hard because rarely do we let ourselves be free to be us, standing in our truth, at the center core of who we are. More often than not we hide and numb out behind the safety of who we think we’re supposed to be and the messages we downloaded in the tender years of our youth.
We are wrapped up in accolades, goal setting and gold stars. We connect our worth to external validation rather than internal acceptance. Without conscious choice, we shun our unique bodies and throw them under the bus in search of the socially acceptable one.
How free does your body feel while on the bedazzled, gold star, perfect health, praise-worthy life path? I have a feeling not very. In fact I have a feeling with the expectations that run you, your body doesn’t even know what freedom looks like. Life feels heavy and weighty with all the to do’s, things to uphold, love to find, races to run, partners to placate, children to appease, big impact to make, and a world to change.
When was the last time you felt fully, completely free to be YOU in your unique body?
When I ask my clients this question they have no clue where to start. The idea of being authentically THEMSELVES, doing exactly what calls deeply from within their beings, moving from their own preferences in a body they are connected to because it is theirs and theirs alone, is something they haven’t entertained since childhood.
What would it be like to have the unabashed freedom to choose to be you? No judgement. No shame. No mistrust of your self or body. Just YOU in your full glory.
We must allow ourselves to get back to the freedom we felt in our bodies as children that’s been been buried under so many years of, “Act this way, never think that. Eat this, don’t eat that. Look like this, never wear that. Stay strong, never show weakness. Suck it up, don’t be emotional.”
We are all behind “female empowerment” and saying everyone has the right to be themselves, yet daily subvert our own real power by lamely choosing the societal construct of what an empowered woman looks like.
The only person who has the power to set you free is you. And it takes a hell of a lot of courage.
So tell me, how do you block your own freedom? How do you keep yourself and your body on lockdown every day?
If these questions feel too big to unpack alone and you want to get rid of the self-imposed rules that keep you swimming in the watered-down version of you rather than the real you, email me. I currently have 2 open spots in my private practice and I’d love to work with you on this deep, life-shifting stuff. So important.
Biggest love and cheers to the freedom to be exactly you,
P.S. We are talking all about freedom in my final FREE coaching call happening this Thursday. Click here so you don’t miss it.
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