The game-changing question you never ask and need to

I'm currently on maternity leave, elbow deep in diapers, drool and the daring adventures of motherhood. I'll be back to coaching and writing in June and until then, please enjoy this favorite post from the past. XO   There is a game-changing question that we all need to ask more regularly and don’t.

The question is: “What do I like?”

It’s an easy question.  Simple.  Succinct.  One we can answer with our eyes closed, right? Well, sometimes.  And then sometimes we forget to ask.  We “go with the flow” and take what’s given.

We don’t share our likes thinking they make us seem persnickety, difficult, demanding.  We fall back on people please, deciding their likes trump ours and we’ll like whatever they like because they seem to care more.

Here’s the deal. You care.

Don’t pretend like you don’t and please don’t pretend like “being easy” is better for the whole.  No one benefits from you keeping your likes to yourself.  In holding back, you feel empty and unsatisfied and those around you never really know who you are.

We are our likes and our loves.  We are also our dislikes and by denying them we deny core pieces of ourselves.

Have the strength to stand for each of them.  Don’t take the crappy wine on the plane just because it’s served.  You don’t like it!  Don’t say yes to the 7 am meeting.  That’s when you like to move your body.  Don’t eat the lemon cookies simply because they were plopped in front of you.  You are a chocolate girl and lemon has never been your thing.

We can be grateful for what’s present and given without having to participant in it.

Come back to what YOU like.  This week, make a list of what curls your toes, sends shivers up your spine and makes you feel like a queen under a canopy bed.  

What are the likes and loves you’ve been keeping on the backburner that need to be brought to the forefront?

Place the list in a spot where you see it every day and only say YES to something when it makes you feel as good as the things on your list.

All my love,



General, Personal Growthjamie