Questions for When You’re a Mom Who’s Lost

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There are times as a mother when I literally forget who I am.

Times when I get so sucked into the laundry list of life that I struggle to locate ME.

When that happens I plop myself down and write. I ask and answer big questions and in the writing, I’m always brought back home to myself.

Here are the questions that worked their magic on me just this morning:

  • What breaks my heart?

  • What sucks my energy?

  • What hardens me?

  • What lights me up?

  • What gives me energy?

  • What softens me?

  • What am I courageously committed to?

If you’ve lost yourself today, answer these and see what happens.

 
 

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