I've been thinking a lot about change recently. It's as if every time I catch my breath and get used to life "as it is", something shifts. There's a change in the world. A change in my 3 year old's sleep pattern. A change in my body. A change in the law.
Change, change, everywhere change.
In my 15 years of coaching I've had countless clients ask me, "If I know I want to be less controlling in my life, why do I keep defaulting to it?" There are a number of reasons why we seek to control. Many of us developed controlling behaviors as children to create a sense of stability and safety in an otherwise chaotic/unsafe environment.
Read MoreFor most of my life I toggled between wanting to be a "good girl" and wanting to tell people (and systems) to leave me the f*ck alone. It was a hard line to walk with one part of me wanting to be liked and held in "high-standing" and the other feeling put upon, judged and resenting it.
Read MoreQuestion for you: What were you taught about slowness? Perhaps you were taught that slowness is a form of laziness. Perhaps you internalized the message that going slow is a waste of precious time. Maybe you see slowness as the antithesis of productivity or worse, that slowness is a reflection of low intelligence.
Since January began, my partner Adam and I have been randomly looking at each other and making an exasperated "BLAH!" face. It's the face we use when either of us is feeling uninspired, listless or just, well, BLAH.
Read MoreAs the days shorten we find our bodies naturally craving slowness and inwardness.
Read MoreSince we were children, we've been taught that quitting is a marker of weakness or poor character. Only losers and the undisciplined quit, right?!?
Read MoreYou are not confused. You simply live in a culture that has made it their mission to make you think you're confused to keep you separate from your power. Let’s clear some of that up right now.
Read MoreDo you know what you need to do and STILL aren't doing it? I call this being haunted by your Big Q.
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