This conversation is between myself and an incredible woman named Ani, who shares how she learned how to be authentic, practice self-compassion, and take up space without guilt or shame through my 6-month group coaching program, Homecoming. Ani is a model for how to excavate internalized misogyny and live authentically without fear of others’ opinions. The conversation originally took place on podcast, The Path Home.
Read MoreAs a self care coach, schedule buffering is one of my go to self care tips after a big presentation, after a work trip, after solo parenting, after a holiday party, and after any sort of transition. I make sure to enter slowly. I don't over commit. I leave LOTS of space for me to take it easy and move at a slower pace rather than slamming into the next thing after having just put so much out.
Read MoreWomen are uniquely tasked with carefully navigating the way we interact with the people around us. We aren't to make anyone mad. We can't let anyone down. We mustn't offend anyone. Don't even think of hurting anyone's feelings. And don't you dare inconvenience anyone.
Read MoreTruth is, many of us are amazing shit-picker-uppers. It doesn’t matter who the shit belongs to, if someone drops a steaming pile of it in front of us, we always pick it up. Always.
Read MoreI've been thinking a lot about change recently. It's as if every time I catch my breath and get used to life "as it is", something shifts. There's a change in the world. A change in my 3 year old's sleep pattern. A change in my body. A change in the law.
Change, change, everywhere change.
In my 15 years of coaching I've had countless clients ask me, "If I know I want to be less controlling in my life, why do I keep defaulting to it?" There are a number of reasons why we seek to control. Many of us developed controlling behaviors as children to create a sense of stability and safety in an otherwise chaotic/unsafe environment.
Read MoreAt any given time, we only have so many fucks to give. We are currently inundated with crisis after crisis, and we want to fix them. There are causes we want to support and systems we want to change, all while attempting to care for ourselves, our children, our bills, our mental health, our relationships, our our our.....
Read MoreThis past weekend I had the honor to facilitate a workshop for a group of mothers about over and under-function in the face of stress and crisis.
Read MoreNo matter what topic my clients and I are covering in our sessions, be it relationships, career, joy, diet culture/mentality, or parenting we somehow always come back to the foundational theme of how they are caring for themselves through their particular situation.
Read MoreClose your computer. Stop scrolling Instagram. Hide from your family and just sit. Then breathe. Then notice. In this stillness is where you will feel the tug, the call, for what needs care in your life.
Read MoreMy clients are doctors, artists, entrepreneurs, architects, teachers, consultants, aid workers. They are very smart people who cerebrally understand these kinds of shaming images are total bullshit and yet they still struggle with their own body shame. They want to accept and embrace their bodies and yet have no idea where to start. And why would they?
Read MoreWe think that if we slow and let go of expectations, it’ll prove what we’ve secretly thought for years: 1) we’re lazy jerks and 2) we’re never going to get what we want. I can promise that neither are true but it certainly feels true when expectations aren’t being met and our natural inclination is to DOUBLE DOWN on efforts to make sh*t happen.
Read MoreWake up, jump/roll out of bed and slam into your day. Eat something. Rush around trying to get as much done as possible. Check Instagram. Compare yourself to others. Eat something. Attempt to check a few more things off your to-do list. Beat yourself up for something you’ve forgotten to do. Eat something. Check Instagram. Feel guilty for not getting enough done. Feel like you’re a barely passable human and most likely failing at most things. Check Instagram. Go to bed.
Read MoreThis poem was inspired by the swath of gun violence we’re seeing in our country. I hope and pray that these attacks upon humanity will stop. And until they do, may we each find a way to feel the pain, send love to our fellow humans, and remember that the good in the world starts with us.
Read MoreYou’re getting closer. Closer to what matters. Closer to what feels good without feeling guilty about it. Closer to letting you just be you.
Read MoreToday honey, take the compliment.
Don’t deflect. Don’t turn it around. Don’t shoot one back to step out of the spotlight.
Today when your friend says she loves your shoes, don’t tell her how old they are or what you paid for them.
Instead say, “Thank you, I know.”
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