Truth is, many of us are amazing shit-picker-uppers. It doesn’t matter who the shit belongs to, if someone drops a steaming pile of it in front of us, we always pick it up. Always.

We belong to each other

From the stories we tell, from the hurt we’ve had. From the broken-hearts and big wins. From the major falls and epic overhauls. The truth is, we only know what we know when we know it. And to hold ourselves and others to impossible standards and should be’s is to disconnect us from us and each other, to forget that we belong.

Relationships, Self CareJamie GreenwoodFebruary 5, 2017you belong, belonging, self compassion, compassion, we belong to each otherComment

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When we praise a woman for being “small" we both offer our twisted belief that smaller is better and then shower ourselves with self judgment for not being small, or at least, not “small enough”. This example also works if we were to praise a woman for her being “tall” or “large”, believing that larger is better and then judging ourselves and others for not being “large enough”.

Motherhood, Relationships, Self CareJamie GreenwoodOctober 24, 2016body positive, body image, pregnancy, healthy body, mothering, feminismComment

The well of goodwill

Since that conversation 2 years ago, I’ve thought a lot about the goodwill well of my relationship and how to keep it happy and flowing. General kindness and staying out of resentment are both important and here are a few other actions that Adam, me and my clients use to keep our goodwill wells at healthy levels.

Are you ready or willing?

This process or period of changing from one state or condition to another is so common that if you’re living here on planet earth (as an animal, vegetable and even mineral) you’ve certainly experienced some kind of transition. Some transitions we’re eager for (first love, driver’s license, new home) and some, well, they find us. In fact, sometimes it feels like we’re being hunted by change with nowhere to hide.

If you’re in the middle of a transition, read this.

I’ve noticed over the last few months that all of my clients are going through some sort of transition. Whether they’re making a career move, speaking their truth more in relationships, are becoming empty-nesters or are transitioning away from perfectionism towards joy and self-compassion, everyone’s moving out of one thing towards another that’s altogether new.

What if there is no "right way" to do things?

I’ve been noticing this idea of right order come up a lot lately with my clients. Some believe they have to be a certain weight before they accept their bodies, some espouse they can’t move forward in their good work before they have the right education, while others believe they can’t date before they feel 100% emotionally ready.

The Essentials

Relationships are hard. Really hard. And there’s no way around difficult discussions, misunderstandings and hurt feelings when trying to share your life with another person. That said, if we remember what’s essential to us, what we need to function well, we can better navigate which hardships we’re willing to face and fight through and which are simply non-starters.