I've been thinking a lot about change recently. It's as if every time I catch my breath and get used to life "as it is", something shifts. There's a change in the world. A change in my 3 year old's sleep pattern. A change in my body. A change in the law.
Change, change, everywhere change.
This past weekend I had the honor to facilitate a workshop for a group of mothers about over and under-function in the face of stress and crisis.
Read MoreWith more screen time comes more mental load and chatter, increasing our mind’s need for care.
Read MoreQuick question: How often do you find yourself spiraling down into fear? If we're all being honest, the answer is probably quite often. I know it is for me. Especially since becoming a parent I've noticed my mind jumping to terrifying scenarios just when I look at my beloved children.
Read MoreQuestion: Do you ever beat yourself up for not having the immediate solution to solve all your problems? Or for the fact that you're only willing to reach out for support once it feels like life's about to fall apart?
Read MoreAccessing that humanity is no easy thing. For many of us, it takes a tremendous confluence of events and emotions to be shaken enough to cry. My invitation and challenge to you is, when the miracle hits and the tears finally come, care for yourself enough to let them flow. Let yourself feel all that comes up, knowing that no feeling lasts forever and on the other side of that emotional wave is clarity and action, just waiting for you.
Read MoreIt’s not our fault that we’re control freaks. Besides it being a natural desire to feel safe and secure, controlling ourselves is often the only way to live the misguided ideals of beauty, accomplishment and success that have been shoved down our throats since birth.
Read MoreHow many years have you lost just being so hard on yourself? It’s an interesting phenomenon. We tell ourselves that time flies, that it’s slipping through our fingers, that we must be as productive as possible to make every single minute count. And yet how much time do we continually lose to criticizing our bodies, denying our desires, questioning our true experience, and worrying what people think of us?
Read MorePause is imperative to creating the life we want. In fact, it is the foundation on which our dreams and actions are built as it’s only when we quiet that we can hear the wisdom within, the wisdom needed to powerfully guide us into the coming year. Here is a simple ritual that will help you both honor the year you’ve had and consciously connect to how you want to experience the year to come.
Read MoreYes, having children is reckless. As is starting a business, falling in love, taking on a new project, making time for art or speaking up when it’d be so easy to keep the peace. And yet it’s on the other side of reckless that we find the heart and growth that brings purpose, wisdom and deep satisfaction to our lives.
Read MoreI want to be engaged and spurred on by what inspires, challenges and frightens me rather than hiding out in the covert ways that I do. I want to be present and awake for the reality that currently is — and for the one I’m courageously crafting.
Read MoreHere is my interview on the Insatiable podcast with hosts Ali Shapiro and Juliet Burgh. Together we talk about emotional resilience, feeling our feelings and how to use my 3 P’s (Presence, Peace and Power) to reconnect to yourself and cultivate an engaged, fulfilling life.
Read MoreFeel what you’ve work hard to know and what you’ve always known, without effort. Dedicate yourself to that knowing. Fully commit to that special gift, that fire within. Be all in for if you’re not, what else is this life for?
Read MoreNow if you’re anything like me or my clients, your brain has an amazing ability to pull you out of the present moment and future trip on scary shit that may or may not happen. Your mind may also be particularly adept at telling you that your body is subpar, you’re not as good at your job as you think you are, you’re not thoughtful, generous or patient enough and oh, the uncomfortable shit that’s happening in your life right now, it’s only going to get worse.
Read MoreThe conversation looks something like this: Life is going way too fast, there’s too much to do, we’re worried we don’t have enough time to get everything done and what we do do is not good enough. Pepper that with feelings of judgment, comparison and plain ole’ perfectionism and you’d nail what so many of us are experiencing on a daily basis.
Read MoreI’ve been noticing this idea of right order come up a lot lately with my clients. Some believe they have to be a certain weight before they accept their bodies, some espouse they can’t move forward in their good work before they have the right education, while others believe they can’t date before they feel 100% emotionally ready.
Read MoreLast week I gave a presentation to a group of 50 consultants on the topic of emotional resilience and how to stay connected to ourselves during chaos. We talked about our Itty Bitty Shitty Committees (the negative voices inside our head), how to find compassion for ourselves in the face of difficult feedback and giving voice to our struggles without either denying them or getting sucked into them.
Read MoreWe think that if we slow and let go of expectations, it’ll prove what we’ve secretly thought for years: 1) we’re lazy jerks and 2) we’re never going to get what we want. I can promise that neither are true but it certainly feels true when expectations aren’t being met and our natural inclination is to DOUBLE DOWN on efforts to make sh*t happen.
Read MoreThis poem was inspired by the swath of gun violence we’re seeing in our country. I hope and pray that these attacks upon humanity will stop. And until they do, may we each find a way to feel the pain, send love to our fellow humans, and remember that the good in the world starts with us.
Read MoreYou’re getting closer. Closer to what matters. Closer to what feels good without feeling guilty about it. Closer to letting you just be you.
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