This conversation is between myself and an incredible woman named Ani, who shares how she learned how to be authentic, practice self-compassion, and take up space without guilt or shame through my 6-month group coaching program, Homecoming. Ani is a model for how to excavate internalized misogyny and live authentically without fear of others’ opinions. The conversation originally took place on podcast, The Path Home.
Read MoreAs a self care coach, schedule buffering is one of my go to self care tips after a big presentation, after a work trip, after solo parenting, after a holiday party, and after any sort of transition. I make sure to enter slowly. I don't over commit. I leave LOTS of space for me to take it easy and move at a slower pace rather than slamming into the next thing after having just put so much out.
Read MoreWomen are uniquely tasked with carefully navigating the way we interact with the people around us. We aren't to make anyone mad. We can't let anyone down. We mustn't offend anyone. Don't even think of hurting anyone's feelings. And don't you dare inconvenience anyone.
Read MoreTruth is, many of us are amazing shit-picker-uppers. It doesn’t matter who the shit belongs to, if someone drops a steaming pile of it in front of us, we always pick it up. Always.
Read MoreI've been thinking a lot about change recently. It's as if every time I catch my breath and get used to life "as it is", something shifts. There's a change in the world. A change in my 3 year old's sleep pattern. A change in my body. A change in the law.
Change, change, everywhere change.
In my 15 years of coaching I've had countless clients ask me, "If I know I want to be less controlling in my life, why do I keep defaulting to it?" There are a number of reasons why we seek to control. Many of us developed controlling behaviors as children to create a sense of stability and safety in an otherwise chaotic/unsafe environment.
Read MoreFor most of my life I toggled between wanting to be a "good girl" and wanting to tell people (and systems) to leave me the f*ck alone. It was a hard line to walk with one part of me wanting to be liked and held in "high-standing" and the other feeling put upon, judged and resenting it.
Read MoreQuestion for you: What were you taught about slowness? Perhaps you were taught that slowness is a form of laziness. Perhaps you internalized the message that going slow is a waste of precious time. Maybe you see slowness as the antithesis of productivity or worse, that slowness is a reflection of low intelligence.
Since January began, my partner Adam and I have been randomly looking at each other and making an exasperated "BLAH!" face. It's the face we use when either of us is feeling uninspired, listless or just, well, BLAH.
Read MoreAs the days shorten we find our bodies naturally craving slowness and inwardness.
Read MoreSince we were children, we've been taught that quitting is a marker of weakness or poor character. Only losers and the undisciplined quit, right?!?
Read MoreYou are not confused. You simply live in a culture that has made it their mission to make you think you're confused to keep you separate from your power. Let’s clear some of that up right now.
Read MoreDo you know what you need to do and STILL aren't doing it? I call this being haunted by your Big Q.
Read MoreHere we are with half of 2021 gone and I wonder, how are we all really doing? How are we recovering as we emerge back into the world and what kind of a job are we doing to take care of ourselves through what is still a very trying time?
Read MoreWe are all familiar with the ever-so-popular New Year, New You weight loss resolution. We hop on board under the guise that we’re taking better care of ourselves and that this is THE YEAR we’re going to get back to our “pre” weight (pre-wedding, pre-baby, pre-pandemic) and finally look the way we want to.
Read More“I can’t believe the way he acts sometimes,” my client said incredulously. We were discussing her fiancè and how she often finds herself either embarrassed or angered by how he acts in public.
Read MoreQuestion for you: What's one small promise you can make yourself this year?
Read MoreAt any given time, we only have so many fucks to give. We are currently inundated with crisis after crisis, and we want to fix them. There are causes we want to support and systems we want to change, all while attempting to care for ourselves, our children, our bills, our mental health, our relationships, our our our.....
Read MoreThis past weekend I had the honor to facilitate a workshop for a group of mothers about over and under-function in the face of stress and crisis.
Read MoreThis past weekend I had the honor to facilitate a workshop for a group of mothers about over and under-function in the face of stress and crisis.
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