I used to think children ruined your life. I used to think I'd have no time for work or fun or rest. I used to think I'd be so worn down by months of middle of the night feedings that I'd be unable to function. I used to think having children would just be too hard.
Read MoreIt started decades ago with my body. My arms were a problem. My stomach was a problem. My ass was a BIG problem. Over the years this sense of wrongness spread, sucking the joy out of friendships, romance, vacations, and work.
Read MoreThere was a time when you thought you were wise. A time when you thought you had answers. A time when you didn't fixate on nap times and the question "what's for dinner?" And isn't it always when we gain some semblance of perceived understanding that it's time to become a student again?
Read MoreYou are not changed by motherhood, you are utterly transformed. Stripped of who you were (What the hell did you do with all that free time you used to have?), thrown into the fire, melted down to your core and built up again into someone you don't recognize.
Read MoreIn this culture, we aren’t taught how to care for ourselves and so we’re left with the beauty-maintenance type of care that, though nice, only keeps us fed for a brief moment. That disconnect sent me looking more closely at care, to find something beyond self care that could access a purer level of nourishment that a pedicure ever could.
Read MoreAll newness is tough. New kid in school, new relationship, new job. And what we’re being asked to remember is that firsts are also an invitation to touch upon our resilience and the possibility of adventure.
Read MoreDear goodness! We all handle shittiness differently and depending on the circumstance, I can either quickly let it go or stew over it for a week. Over time I’ve honed a few key steps to help me (and my clients) deal with shittiness.
Read MoreIs it really enough of a contribution that I spend our days feeding, burping, changing, and soothing? Certainly I could be doing more? Certainly I could find some way to prove my worth to society while stuck in this nursing chair?
Read MoreRound the clock feeding. Sleep deprivation. Aching back. Cracked nipples. Clothes that are now throw-up catchers. And the shit. Literal shit that somehow finds its way out of diapers and onto legs, hands, feet, and ears.
Read MoreWe don’t share our likes thinking they make us seem persnickety, difficult, demanding. We fall back on people please, deciding their likes trump ours and we’ll like whatever they like because they seem to care more.
Read MoreDon't wish away what is such a sweet, tender, hard, exhilarating and ultimately short time. The two of you have the rest of your lives to be older. In fact, older is guaranteed.
Read MoreNow, I wish I could tell you my growing love handles didn’t bother me. But the truth is, though I didn’t freak out and go on some crazy, no-fat, no-carb diet like I would have years ago, I definitely harbored fantasies of telling new dude that we couldn’t eat out anymore and had to cut back on the drinking and dessert.
Read MoreFrom the stories we tell, from the hurt we’ve had. From the broken-hearts and big wins. From the major falls and epic overhauls. The truth is, we only know what we know when we know it. And to hold ourselves and others to impossible standards and should be’s is to disconnect us from us and each other, to forget that we belong.
Read MoreYes, having children is reckless. As is starting a business, falling in love, taking on a new project, making time for art or speaking up when it’d be so easy to keep the peace. And yet it’s on the other side of reckless that we find the heart and growth that brings purpose, wisdom and deep satisfaction to our lives.
Read MoreI want to be engaged and spurred on by what inspires, challenges and frightens me rather than hiding out in the covert ways that I do. I want to be present and awake for the reality that currently is — and for the one I’m courageously crafting.
Read MoreOn the morning of the third day I woke up early to snag a quick hike with the hope that moving my body might help shake off the fear. Cruising up the hill I took in the sunrise and the hawk gliding above and tried hard to embrace the serenity around me. I made each step a walking meditation, feeling my heel, then the ball of my foot, then my toes touch the earth.
Read MoreHere is my interview on the Insatiable podcast with hosts Ali Shapiro and Juliet Burgh. Together we talk about emotional resilience, feeling our feelings and how to use my 3 P’s (Presence, Peace and Power) to reconnect to yourself and cultivate an engaged, fulfilling life.
Read MoreWhen we praise a woman for being “small" we both offer our twisted belief that smaller is better and then shower ourselves with self judgment for not being small, or at least, not “small enough”. This example also works if we were to praise a woman for her being “tall” or “large”, believing that larger is better and then judging ourselves and others for not being “large enough”.
Read MoreSince that conversation 2 years ago, I’ve thought a lot about the goodwill well of my relationship and how to keep it happy and flowing. General kindness and staying out of resentment are both important and here are a few other actions that Adam, me and my clients use to keep our goodwill wells at healthy levels.
Read MoreFeel what you’ve work hard to know and what you’ve always known, without effort. Dedicate yourself to that knowing. Fully commit to that special gift, that fire within. Be all in for if you’re not, what else is this life for?
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